Infertility is Not a Sin – Breaking the Stigma Around Parenthood

By Dr. Abha Shrikrishna Shriwastav
MBBS, DGO, FMAS
Obstetrician- Gynaecologist

Infertility is often considered a taboo topic in our society. Many couples silently suffer, carrying the weight of emotional pain, societal pressure, and self-blame. As a gynecologist, I have witnessed countless couples struggling—not just with the medical aspect of infertility, but with the psychological and social burden that comes with it.

It is time we change the narrative: Infertility is NOT a sin, nor a personal failure. It is a medical condition like diabetes, hypertension, or thyroid imbalance—one that can often be diagnosed, treated, and managed with proper care.

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Why Infertility Happens

Infertility can affect both men and women, and the reasons can vary:
• Hormonal imbalances such as PCOS or thyroid disorders
• Tubal blockages or pelvic infections in women
• Low sperm count or motility in men
• Lifestyle factors such as stress, obesity, smoking, or alcohol
• Unexplained infertility, where no clear medical cause is found

It is important to understand that infertility is nobody’s fault. Blaming women, as often happens in our culture, is unfair and incorrect. Male factors contribute to infertility in about 40% of cases—yet this is rarely acknowledged openly.

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The Emotional Journey

Couples dealing with infertility often experience:
• Anxiety and depression
• Strained relationships due to stress and guilt
• Social isolation because of hurtful comments or insensitive questions
• Fear of being judged or labeled as “incomplete”

This emotional trauma can sometimes be harder to heal than the medical issue itself.

As a society, we must learn to be compassionate. A couple’s worth is not defined by their ability to have children. Love, care, and contribution to society are far greater measures of a fulfilling life.

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Treatment is Possible

Today, medical science offers many solutions for infertility:
• Medications to regulate ovulation or improve sperm health
• Minimally invasive surgeries for blockages or structural issues
• IUI (Intrauterine Insemination)
• IVF (In Vitro Fertilization) and other advanced reproductive technologies

With the right timely intervention, many couples can experience parenthood successfully.

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Breaking the Stigma

We must change our perspective and support couples facing infertility:
• Stop asking intrusive questions like “When are you planning children?”
• Avoid blaming or shaming either partner
• Encourage them to seek medical help early
• Offer emotional support rather than judgment

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Final Thoughts

Infertility is not a punishment or a reflection of one’s worth. It is a medical challenge, and with the right care and compassion, it can be managed.

As a doctor and as a woman, I strongly urge everyone to replace stigma with understanding and silence with awareness. Let us build a world where couples feel safe, supported, and hopeful on their journey toward parenthood.